Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Manipur Land Reform Act and ADC Election, 2010

“We feel happy that the ADC election has been conducted. However, the election was postponed for more than 20 years because of our demand for the Sixth Schedule. As for Kuki brethren, we welcome the election, but Nagas opposed it.” -- Sheikhomang Chongloi, a voter

“In 2010, the State government took the decision to conduct ADC election and consequently they are holding this election. We hope that this time the District Council will be fully operative and I believe the public residing at the hills will be benefited up to some extent” -- Paolun, voter.

The Government of India placed Manipur under the Fifth Schedule on the basis of the A.V. Thakkar Subcommittee’s report. The Government of Manipur passed two acts: the Manipur Land Reform and Land Revenue Act (MLR and LRA), 1960 and the Manipur (Hill Areas) District Councils Act, (MHADCA) 1971. The MLR and LRA is meant for all the districts of Manipur. The District Councils started functioning from 1973 till 1989; and since then it has been kept in abeyance for the demand for extension of the Sixth Schedule provision in the hill areas of Manipur till May-June, 2010.

The Manipur State Legislative Assembly passed the Manipur Hill Areas (Acquisition of Chiefs Rights) Act on 14 June, 1967 which authorized the state government to acquire the rights, titles and interests of the chiefs in the hill areas of Manipur. According to the Act, the chiefs were to be compensated on the basis of the following criteria: (1) the area of land under chiefs; (2) total number of households within each chiefdom; and, (3) compensation in installment or lump sum.

The Manipur Land Reform and Land Revenue Act (MLR &LRA),1960 which is amended from time to time is extended to (1) 89 villages of Churachandpur district in 1962, vide notification no.142/12/60, dated 22-2-1962; (2) 14 villages in Sadar Hills of Senapati district, vide notification no. 138/4/64, dated 25-2-1965; (3) 14 villages in Khoupum valley of Tamenglong district, vide notification no. 3/12/83, dated 14-11-1987.

The Government of Manipur enacted the Manipur State Hill Peoples (Administration) Regulation Act, (MSHPAR),1947 which divided the whole hill territory into circles. In each village of tax-paying 20 households or above, there was a village authority consisting of chiefs and elders. Above the village authority, there was circle authority comprising one circle officer appointed by the government and a council of 5 members elected by the village authorities falling within the circle.

To encourage people’s participation in the local administration, the Manipur (Village Authority in Hill Areas) Act was passed in 1956 which introduced for the first time election of members to the village authority on the basis of adult franchise by repealing the earlier MSHPAR Act, 1947. When Manipur attained statehood in 1972, the Manipur (Hill Areas) District Council Act, 1972 was passed by the state government.

"The Manipur Assembly  passed the Manipur (Hill Areas) District Councils (Third Amendment) Act, 2008 only after the HAC consented to it following a six-month study of the provisions. "If the tribal population of Manipur did not like the bill, no tribal MLA would have had to courage to clear it in the HAC. The clearance by the HAC shows the Act has the support of the tribal people of Manipur," --Biren

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Quotes on Th Muivah's attempted Manipur visit imbroglio

"As of now, the Imphal-Dimapur highway does not figure in chief minister Ibobi Singh’s scheme of things. The Manipur government dropped plans to use the supply route after the state director-general of police Yumnam Joykumar Singh was asked by his Nagaland counterpart not to send the trucks till the situation became normal."

"Surely the image of Ibobi Singh has gone up manifold and he has become the darling of the people for the simple reason that he defied the diktat of the central government over Muivah's visit to Manipur."
--Babloo Loitongbam

"The naga brothers and sisters should wake up before it is too late and stop those leaders who are using them as a human shied for his political game. Question is how many naga people freely follow the ideology of Muviah and his dream to form a state called as "Nagalim". Should not it better to call "Muviah-lim" instead of calling "Nagalim"."

"The sky is empty and free, if they dream so high for making a land inhibited by only one community then it should only be in the sky...not on the mother earth..."
"Even Ukhrul district, viewed as overwhelmingly inhabited by one Naga tribe, the Tangkhul, now has a significant presence of other people, in particular the Kuki. In Senapati district, supposedly inhabited overwhelmingly by the Mao Naga, Kuki people dominate the Sadar sub-division. They also have many political demands for ‘recognition', assertion of territoriality and demarcation of an exclusive political space. Much the same points may be made in respect of Tamenglong and Chandel districts. A further complexity of switching of tribal identities is a marked feature of the identity politics, which is especially marked in Chandel district."
--M. S. Prabhakara, The Hindu

"It is where Isak Chishi Swu needs to be asked, whether is it Meiteis or Swu and his outfit who are greedy of other people's land? The Meiteis or for that matter, the Government of Manipur have never encroached upon the territory of Nagaland or Mizoram or Assam or even Myanmar."
--N. Hera, Hueiyen News Service

"Even looking back at the recent history, after Manipur became a full-fledged state, the first Chief Minister was Late Md Alimuddin from the minority community. In its 37 years after getting statehood, Yangmasho Shaiza and Rishang Keishing ruled Manipur as Chief Minister for 21 years."
--N. Hera, Hueiyen News Service

"We want that the Meteis of Manipur and the Nagas cohabit without any animosity."
--Kughalo Mulatonu

"If today’s generation could not protect the territory of the state drawn by the blood of 'our forefather' who fought even with the mighty British Emperor, it will be meaningless for the Manipuris to live in this world. When they could not convinced rebel leader Muivah to install as Chief Minister of Nagaland to end his arm struggle, leaders of the GoI, on thinking that if he be installed as Chief Minister by creating South Nagaland, is sending Muivah to the state."
--Yumnamcha Dilip, president of the UCM

"If a small road was blocked for day in Haryana or Uttar Pradesh, the media would have covered it immediately. But a month's blockade of two arteries joining the state with the rest of India hasn't attracted even a fraction of that attention. Why? Because Haryana and UP are more important to South and North Block than Manipur?"
--Tarun Vijay, BJP's national spokesperson and director, Dr Syama Prasad Mookerjee Research Foundation, New Delhi

"Sixty years of political struggle against occupational forces should not be equated with petty domestic issues of Manipur state. Sovereignty of the Naga people is not with Manipur state Government. ...Mr. Th Muivah visiting or not his native village in Manipur has never been, is not, will never be a Naga-Manipur problem...”

"Nagas and Manipuris have lived together for centuries in mutual respect. There is no reason why this camaraderie and bonhomie should abruptly end. All Naga and Manipuri Leading Organizations must realize that a man’s entry or exit from his native village is not worth a battle let alone war."

"...while every Naga expects its apex body to act responsibly with sound judgment even in the most compelling circumstance, Naga Hoho has miserably failed to display maturity and elderly wisdom. The Naga Hoho is not a Naga Hoho in the truest sense of the term since it comprises of less than half of the Naga tribes in the state of Nagaland. It must be   answerable to Eastern Naga Peoples Organisation (ENPO) and other non-affiliated tribes in Nagaland and other states for attempted stirring up of unjustified anger over a tiny issue, tarnishing the image of Nagas in the eyes of the neighbors and Naga well-wishers across the globe..."

"On May 9 , the Naga Hoho, in the daily papers screamed 'Manipur Government’s Open Declaration of War Against the Nagas!'  NSCN-K or GPRN/NSCN would simply comment that only a group of men having hidden agenda would attempt to whip up people’s sentiments and emotion to suit their own interest. ...it needed the Naga Hoho to first calm down and look at what had transpired preceding the incident. If Manipur govt. accuses Muivah of committing heinous crimes in the state of Manipur, does it merit the Naga Hoho to unilaterally declare war on behalf of all Nagas against Manipur state? Will it not be wise on the part of the Naga Hoho to first investigate whether the accusations against Th. Muivah are fabricated or factually true? The Naga Hoho failed to exercise its wisdom and when blood was on the wall, it called for war. Understandably, innocent public were simply blackmailed and placed as shooting targets for Manipur police commandoes. Who first initiated the bloody walk? Who is to be blamed?”

"...some underground elements were using the civilians as tools to block the highway. When the Government uses force to clear the blockade, it is only the innocent and unarmed civilians who would get hurt. It is the moral conscience of the State Government to take care of the safety of the citizens."
--N Biren, Spokesperson of the SPF Government, Minister of IFCD and YAS. 

“BJP’s charge of unilateralism against the Home Minister was based on statements of two Congress Chief Ministers, Mr. Ibobi of Manipur and Mr. Rossaiah of Andhra Pradesh. The Manipur Chief Minister is on record stating that, he was not consulted before the decision to allow Mr. Muivah into Manipur. Earlier when, P. Chidambaram made announcement regarding the beginning of the process of formation of Telangana, Andhra Pradesh Chief Minister Mr. Rosaiah immediately clarified that neither he was consulted nor had any knowledge of this announcement.”

"The various voluntary organizations based in Assam will be compelled to launch road blockade on NH 39 (Numaligarh to Moreh) and NH36 (Nagaon to Dimapur) and the Naga voluntary organization shall be held responsible for any untoward incidents in future..."
-- K Chingkham, Convener of NEPO.

"propose of rebel leader's visit is to gain popularity at the sunset of his career...Muivah no longer loves people of Manipur where he was born, leader of the armed outfit's persistence to visit his native place 'with the childish blessings of the Central Government is pregnant with conspiracy to disintegrate Manipur and sow seeds of enmity amongst the ethnic people who had been living peacefully for ages.
--Konjeng Leikai Youth Development Club, Sega Road

"We have co-existed together with love and peace and I believe his entry in the state will destroy the peaceful atmosphere and end that relationship amongst us."
--Rojen Mayengbam

Ibobi Singh's success in consolidating his position as undisputed leader as compared to the flux before he became CM has also helped his cause. The political uncertainty before his tenure as CM was seen to have been exploited by Muivah for the Nagalim cause. Now that Ibobi Singh is in control of things, he does not want Muivah to play a disruptionist role and the CM appears to have successfully stalled the home ministry's initiative to bring the NSCN (I-M) leader to Manipur.

“No one likes to leave his native place unless conditions force him to”
--Th. Muivah at Viswema

“My parents died waiting to see me. I have come in peace, not to stage war. I don’t see how the wish to be in my village and meet my kin after so many years can be a threat”.
--Th. Muivah

“Frankly, I never thought much about this new NNC leader then. But I did notice something in his eyes; he still has that intensity. No wonder, he continues to commands awe and respect of the Nagas.”
--R. Ketsore, chairman of the Viswema Village Council

"The price of all essential items are going up due to their blockade, we are suffering to the extreme. In this situation, it is obvious that we have to block the goods being supplied to them."
--RK Radhesana

"I support the state government's decision to bar Muivah from entering Manipur. If he had come as a civilian or a Manipuri, he could be allowed. But he is coming as a General Secretary of the NSCN-IM and should not be allowed"
--M Namreilung, a protester of the Zeliangrong Naga community in Manipur

"The unilateralism of the Home Minister has once again created tension. Earlier, he had announced creation of a separate Telangana State without taking the Andhra Pradesh Government into confidence. This time, he allowed Muivah to visit his village in Manipur without asking the State Government for its view".
--Prakash Javadekar, BJP delegation to Manipur

"...the crisis in the State was the creation of the Central Government, which unilaterally gave permission to Muivah to visit Manipur, without first consulting the State Government."
--Prakash Javadekar, BJP

"The track record of Mr P Chidambaram as the Union Home Minister of India in connection with the Telangana issue and the anti-Maoist strategy has proved his incompetency beyond doubt."
--The UCM

"HRLN strongly protest the excessive use of force by the police and security forces and as result of which young Naga people lost their lives in totally illegal and unjustified shooting."
--M Rakesh, Director of HRLN, Manipur

"There is no question of disturbing the territorial integrity of Manipur. There is no question of anything to do with Manipur as far as the NSCN-IM negotiations are concerned. So boundaries are not negotiable".
----Prakash Javadekar, BJP spokesperson

"The chief minister of Manipur was requested to come to Delhi and he did so on May 6, 2010. The finance minister, the defence minister and I held talks with the Manipur chief minister, who, however, after his return to Imphal, reiterated the stand that Muivah's visit to Somdal could not be allowed at this stage."
--P. Chidambaram

"May be Muivah a hero in other places but it does not hold good in Manipur. He is a man who is indulging in criminal, looting activities. In any cost he should not allow to enter into the state".
--S Kunjakishore, independent MLA

"...cadres of an armed outfit with substantial dominance in Churachandpur district and one of the suspension of operation signatories impose 'tax' of varied amount from goods carriers in full combat uniform Songtal area of Guite Road...as entry tax an empty truck has to pay Rs 250 while passage of cement load would mean Rs 5 per bag."

"The Centre gave permission to NSCN (IM) general secretary Thuigalen Muivah to spew communal venom to the people of the state"
--Manipur Students Guardians' Organisation (MSGO)

"...leader of a faction of the NSCN (IM) responsible for the mass killing of Kukis and for the June 18 Uprising of 2001 when the cease fire extended in the state is an enemy of the people of the state."
--Rev Y Rehang Chothe, advisor of the MSGO

"...However, as the situation in Manipur is highly critical it would not be possible for the UCM leadership to entertain the request to meet in Guwahati on May 13...UCM is looking forward to meet the Naga civil society at an appropriate time and place in the future."
--Yumnamcha Dilipkumar, UCM president

"the invitation for a joint session at Guwahati on May 13 was flashed through the newspapers, AMUCO would not be able to attend the same due to time constraint as well as the present volatile situation in the State...the prevailing situation in Manipur has compelled both to stay put here, monitor the situation, remain vigilant and work for preventing undesired consequences...working for maintaining tranquility in the State deserves top priority..."
--NC Modhuchandra, Publicity secretary, AMUCO

"since you people are blocking the essential commodities from being taken to Chandel, we will also block transportation of essential commodities from Moreh to Imphal".
--The NSCN-IM cadres

"There is an impression now among the Nagas that Government of India is using the Manipur Government against the Nagas...It appears that Government of India is not committed to its own commitment that it will strive to solve the Naga issue...If not, then they must know what the Nagas and the NSCN can do again."
--Thuingaleng Muivah, NSCN (I-M) general secretary

"NPMHR is shocked that the human rights groups from Imphal valley, who have been campaigning against militarization, extra-judicial killing, asserting the rights to self-determined future and other human rights abuses, are yet to condemn the killings of innocent Nagas...What is more shocking is that some of the so called 'human rights' organisations are actively supporting the policies of the Government of Manipur against the Nagas which has already resulted in the loss of lives and injuries to many Nagas."
--The Naga Peoples' Movement for Human Rights (NPMHR)

"Terror and violence through military action will bring no solution to the conflict, peace and security can only be achieved by respecting the wishes of the people."
--The Naga Peoples' Movement for Human Rights (NPMHR)

"The cease fire is confined only within the State of Nagaland and with a large number of criminal cases pending against him, it would not have been right to allow Muivah to enter Manipur."
--The Cabinet, SPF Government

Monday, May 17, 2010

National Highway[s] Passing through Manipur

  • National Highway 150 (NH 150) links Seling in Mizoram with Kohima, Nagaland, passing through Manipur. Its total length is of 700 km. The Manipur section of NH 150 is known as Tipaimukh Road. Ministry of Road Transport & Highways, GoI declared the road as National Highway 150 on 6.1.1999. Important points till Manipur: Seling, Khawlailung, Parbung. Phaiphengmun, E.Phaileng, Darlawn, Raru, N.Vanlaiphai, Darlawn, N.Vervek, Tipaimukh, Churachandpur, Bishnupur, Imphal, Ukhrul, Kuiri, Jessami
  • National Highway 53 (NH 53) connects Badarpur, Assam with Imphal, Manipur, starting from the junction of NH 44 at Badarpur. It has a distance of 320 km [100 km is in Assam and 220 km is in Manipur]. Main points: Silchar, Banskandi, Lakhipur, Jiribam, Nungba, Tamenglong District.

  • National Highway 39 (NH 39) covers a distance of 436 km [115 km in Assam, 100 km in Nagaland,  and 211 km in Manipur]. It starts from Numaligarh, Assam and ends at Indo-Myanmar Border. Main Points:  Golaghat, Garampani, Barpathar, Naojan, Bakojan, Dimapur, Kohima, Tadubi, Senapati, Kangpokpi, Imphal, Thoubal, Palel, Tengnoupal.
  • The Trans-Asian Highway will make possible of driving down to Bangkok from Manipur by 2017, with Prime Minister of India, Narendra Modi signing a Memorandum of Understanding with Myanmar on opening four-lane motorways to promote trade and tourism from the NE States into Myanmar, and on to Thailand, Cambodia and Vietnam. The new superhighway is part of the “Mekong-India Corridor”, linking Indian markets with China, and thus opening up new oil and gas opportunities off the coasts of Myanmar and Vietnam, and enabling easier access to Japanese products made in Thailand.

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Tribes in Manipur



Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Kings of Manipur

Kangba, the First King, (1405-1359 B.C)
Moriya/Mariya or Maliya Phambalcha or Koi-Koi (1379 BC)
Nongdanhan and Taohuireng
Korou Nongdren Pakhangba (-934 BC ?)
Chingkhong Poireiton (34-18 BC)
Nongda Lairen Pakhangba (33–154 AD)
Khuiyoi Tompok, (154 AD)
Naophangba (428–518 AD)
Meidingu Chenglei Lanthaba, (-965 AD)
Meidingu Yanglou Keiphaba/Khamlang (965-983 AD)
Loiyamba (1074–1122 AD)
Meidingu Loitongba (1121-1149 AD)
Meidingu Ningthou Khomba (1432–1467) [Charairongba]
Meidingu Kiyamba (1467–1508 AD), [Thangwai Ningthouba]
Meidingu Khagemba (1597–1652), the conqueror of Chinese
Khunjaoba, (1652 AD)
Paikhomba, (1666 AD)
Meidingu Charairongba (1697–1709)
Meidingu Pamheiba (Garibnawaz) (1709–1748) 
Chit Sai (1748–52)
Bharat Sai, 1752
Gourashyam (1753–58)
Meidingu Chingthangkhomba/Bhagyachandra (1749–1798)(1763-1798 AD)
Chaurajit, (-1813)
Meidingu Marjit (1813–1819)
Meidingngu Gambhir Singh (1826–1834)
Chandrakirti / Ningthem Pishak (1834 – 1844)
Meidingngu Nara Singh, (1844–1850)
Meidingngu Debendra Singh, (1850)
Meidingngu Chandrakirti, (1850–86)
Meidingngu Surchandra, (1886–90)
Kulachandra Dhaja, (1890-)
Meidingngu Churachand Singh (1891–1941)
Meidingu Bodhchandra, (1941-1955 AD)
MK Priyobarta, The First Chief Minister, July 1947

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Puya of Manipur [Sacred Texts/Chronicles]

Kangla Houba
Ninghthou Kangbalon
Ningthourol Lambuba
Numit Kappa
Panthoibi Khongkul
Poireiton Khunthokpa
Sakok Lamlen
Thiren Layat
Wakoklon Heelen Thilel Salai Amailon Pukok

Monday, May 10, 2010

Railway Map of Manipur

  1. Prime Minister Manmohan Singh laid the foundation stone for the rail head at Jiribam in 2004, initially planned from Jiribam to Tupul.
  2. The plan stretches the rail line upto Imphal, Malom Makha Leikai Boroimakhong.
  3. Chief Minister, O Ibobi on March 29, 2010, laid the foundation stone for digging 25-IB tunnel for the Jiribam-Tupul railway line at Noney in Tamenglong. 
  4. The construction of Jiri-Tupul railway line target was 2012. Extended till 2014.
  5. The railway line from Tupul to Imphal targeted to be completed by 2014 has been extended till 2016.
  6. The Jiribam-Tupul is Board-Gauge Railway Line. The total length: 98 km but shorten to 84 km.
  7. Major 9 stations between Jiribam and Tupul: Jiribam, Bolakhan, Keimai Rd, Kambiron, Thingu, Molsang, Noney, Tupul, Konthoujam and Sagoltongba of Imphal West District.
  8. Construction of 10 out of total 46 tunnels completed. Construction works for another 5 tunnels started. 
  9. The longest tunnels are: 5.9 km long of Kambiron, 4.9 Km long between Jiribam-Tupul, and 10.75 Km between Tupul-Imphal sections. 
  10. The longest bridge: The Maku River, 500 meter.
  11. The high mountains are penetrated by constructing tunnels, and the deep river gorges between the mountain ridges are connected by tall bridges. The tallest of such bridges, near Noney, spans over a gorge with an overall length of about 700m, with main superstructures will be steel open web through type girders of 103.5m span. The pillars are of reinforced cement concrete hollow type with the tallest pillar being 141m high.
  12. The 10 km long Jiribam to Dholakhal targeted completion by 2011.
  13. The Cabinet Committee on Economic Affairs (CCEA) approved the proposal of the Broad Gauge 27-km rail line from Tupul to Imphal. 
  14. There will be 14 large bridge and 73 small bridges within the Jiribam-Tupul railway line. 
  15. The estimated cost of the Jiri-Imphal railway line: Rs 2714 crore for 22 tunnels, 93 small bridges and 81 big bridges. 
  16. Mamata Banerjee, the railway minister, announced a diesel locomotive centre for Manipur. “Imphal will soon be connected. As an advance planning, the ministry proposes to set up a diesel locomotive centre in Manipur,” said Mamata. (Feb 26, 2011).
  17. Shashi Tharoor, Union Minister of India, announced on 9 April 2010, that the central government is considering a rail link from Manipur to Vietnam.
  18. Connecting India to Burma, Thailand, Malaysia and Singapore, the proposed Trans-Asian Railway Network (TARN) will pass through Manipur (Moreh). 
  19. The NF Railway Construction Organisation is behind the construction of the tallest bridge in the world at Noney under Tamenglong District in Manipur, at a pillar height of upto 141 metres, surpassing the existing tallest structure of Mala-Rijeka Bridge on Belgrade-Bar railway line in Europe where the height of the pillars are 139m. Targeting completion by March 2016.  
  20. On October 11, 2014, Manipur Chief Minister Okram Ibobi Singh renamed the Kambiron Railway sub-station [the biggest sub-station along the Jiribam to Imphal via Tupul Railway line] as Haipou Jadonang Raiway Sub-station.

Sunday, May 9, 2010

Well done Ibobi

Who is Thuingaleng Muivah?
He doesn't need an introduction; at least for the North East people. He was successful in making a niche in the world of law breaker. Now he is trying very hard to become a lawful citizen. Its very good move. But why at the cost of Manipur's territorial integrity? 

Thuingaleng Muivah is wanted and with more than 1 lakh as cash prize on his head from the state Government for several cases of murder and mayhem like  the 1992-1993 ethnic cleansing of Kuki tribes in Manipur, in the state is still valid. It is said that the ethnic cleansing uprooted 350 Kuki villages, claimed more than 900 lives and 100,000 Kukis turned into refugees. 

Under Indian Constitution, Article 19 (1)D, everyone has the right to live and move anywhere in India. But there is also a clause mentioned in the Article 19 [Article 19 (5)] that if the individual movement leads to a law and order problem, his movement can be restricted as per law.

Chief Minister O. Ibobi, on finding that the Union home ministry is proposing to send him under Z-plus security cover in a government helicopter to the state, refused to oblige the centre's order to let Thuingaleng Muivah in at the meeting called by Home Minister, P Chidambaram, Finance Minister Pranab Mukherjee and Defence Minister AK Antony...it is indeed, a bold act. None of the previous CMs nor the future CMs would dare to take that stand at the interest of the people of the state in large.

The capricious decision of Government of India, with an equally dominant and arrogant diktat of forcing compliance from the Ibobi government followed, there rise automatically a lot of questions in the mind of many Manipuris. It is need of the hour for all the Manipuris to stand united for our territorial integrity and peaceful co-existence.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Mission IM-possible

Action speaks louder than words. There are certain things which are not controllable. What will you do if someone cornered you after knowing your weak point? Weak point is something which need utmost care. It may brings you down from your position, or it may help you in reaching your dream goal.
Before sharing your petite feeling to someone you trusted most, examine yourself twice or thrice...make sure that he or she had also shared their secrets to you. Otherwise accept your defeat to him/her someday.
Winning is beautiful, everybody wants to win; but to win, learn to lose. See his/her reaction when you are in loss...accordingly make your decision. Remember that your correct decision will make your mission of life possible.

Conspiracy - modern avatar

After so many years, months and days of silence in our friendship, he call me up on a lethargic Sunday morning. Unexpected it was...really. Talked for a while, topic ranging from Ibobi's govt. to rising mercury in Delhi to ash in Iceland. Incoming has no bill so I attended without bothering his bill.
But nothing comes in free nowadays...he was talking endlessly because there was someone to pay his mobile bill...for a while I forgot his nature...talking after so many years that's why!!! A genuine rival is better than a factitious friend...a lesson after the mobile talk.
After a lengthy diversion, he took a U turn and asked me about my feelings towards my ex-love. After opening the closed clogging, all of my discontentment and condemnation flush out...loose self control... till the call was off. He recorded our talk using his latest mobile, equipped with latest technology...and presented to my ex-love.
Even my enemy cannot do this. I make up my mind...I spoke only the truth and "the truth" doesn't need to remember or memorize...
I have no baggage for my past, am quite happy with my present ...why should I bother about the nightmare again and again!...the bottom line mantra yielded: NO LOOKING BACK...!