The onset and waning of love!

What is the use of that relationship which doesn't have a mutual respect in between... feel like loneliness being together! Most of the time, you are always hurt by the one you love most...you expect something, but didn't not get a glimpse of what you have expected. Apparently, you are always been loved by the one you don't love! Its not about being messed up alone!
At a maximum, most try to choose the one who loves them, but still their heart belongs to the one who hurt them. And very often they make comparisons...very sad, very very sad...hampering the growth of their relationship,...lost the beauty of love which was blossoming hideously! Got struck...!
Love is something which often brings smiles and happiness at your face without being tried. Gives you the courage to move ahead, ignoring the hard and tough, and make the things going. In short, love is the best medicine for any kind of pain and hardship. But when the relationship stops working, there will be no medicine to soothe the pain given by your love.
The beauty of a relationship and their future depends upon the mutual respect they have for each other. Ego is a main factor, so try to shed off...and if you think your ego has hurt your love, just tender your apology. Even if you are ready to apologies for doing nothing wrong, it doesn't mean that you are wrong and is subdued and your love is right...Feel the good moments...
You must realize the hidden fact that it only means you value the relationship much more than your ego. And if you think there is no future in it, give a call in your heart and quit it.

Price of honesty...

At first sight, you fall in love; you started talking through mobile phones; start exchanging thoughts through messages, mails; and now full introduction about yourself and yours new found love including family members and relatives. You took extra enthusiasm at the beginning of the relationship, may be you are attracted to the beauty, or to the intelligence or may be to the catching words or may be some other reasons.

Great, and congratulation on winning someone's heart. Its not easy to win someone's heart. You started giving hopes. The hope you have given is very powerful, the intensity of the relationship in building will totally depends on that hope. You must be happy now, not because someone is ready to die for you, but for really successful in establishing a new relationship up to that level. Again I must say you are great.

Now, its time to check out whether you are truly in love or not. After, coming to know about the family and relatives of your new found love, there is no point in changing your behaviour and attitude towards your love. So what if your love is not from a well to do family or their relatives are not in that league! Or why more attention if your love belongs to a well to do family!

If you are looking for a love which has a great backing from their family wealth and reputation than go for an arrange relationship. Please don't mind, evaluate yourself once...if you belong to this category, you are not in true love and do not deserve to be in love.

Important point which we have to count here is the honesty your love has. Instead of cheating, if your love has the guts to tell you the truth at the very beginning of your relationship, than its far better to be caught red handed with your lies later on. The beauty of a relationship lies in the way how you share your thoughts/feelings with each other. Rich or poor, fame or wealth...stand by your love. You can earn everything, but you can't buy a true and honest love. Know the price of honesty.

Try to be always around your love when in need.

She was very happy, literally. All the office mates present in the party were praising her, complementing her new look in the new dress. Though returned a smile to all who were complementing her, she was not happy inside. She was missing something....., yes she was missing me, her only love.
That must around 11 am that she rang me up. As it was the pick hour of my office, I was a little bit arrogant in attending the call. In a very jolly mood she greeted me, but after my cruel answer, she, after a short silence said ...
"busy? ok carry on, I was just missing you, so I call you up, ok sorry for disturbing you at office hour. Bye"...



After she hang up the call, I returned back to my work. But something seemed wrong, and I was not able to concentrate on my work. Standing at the lobby of my office, lit a cigarette and call her up. Someone attended the call but she was not there. Her friend finally found her sitting quietly at the nearby garden. In between, her friend narrated the beauty of the spot where they were enjoying their office picnic, and how they were enjoying with their special ones.

Well, you must be busy most of the time in your office. Its obvious that you are working for money, at the end of the month, your pay cheque matters. But sometimes may you need to spare some of your valuable mortgaged time out to fulfill your love demand. Petty things are very much important in keeping the relationship going.

Thousands of complements may come in your way but until and unless your love one complement you, all the others seem valueless. If something excites you all of a sudden and you don't feel the need to inform your love immediately at that moment, BELIEVE me, you are not in true love. Telling thousand times a day "I LOVE YOU" doesn't mean you are proving your love, you need to be always around your love when in need. Try to be always around your love when in need yaar.

Be in love, youth comes once...,

Love after marriage, and love before marriage - you have two choices in your love life. I prefer the second one. My first crush was with one of my classmate, that had happened when I was in just 3rd std. But I didn't have the courage to propose her and express my feeling. She was very talented, and always stood first or sometimes second in the final exam. And I was very happy to see her coming first in the final exam that I hated all those who tried to overthrew her ranking...There were no other way to pull her attention to me except scoring high marks. And thus I studied damn hard. I waited eagerly to complete our Board Exam, so that I could proposed her.



After my Board Exam, I thought that its time to express my feeling[s], and accordingly I tried very hard, but of no use. I couldn't even speak even a single word in front of her. Waited for another year to build up my courage, but when I really got shed off my timidity, and I was ready, she was already with someone. And that someone turned out to be one of my relative. Today she is happily married with that very someone, and has a beautiful daughter.

Being in love always makes you tender in heart, but not compatible in all your acts throughout the ages. Be a mommo's guy, no doubt. Be always a friend with your books, great. But don't let your youth goes without love. There is nothing wrong in falling in love when you are just a student. The love which you sow in your youth today will make you feel tender in your whole life.

After completion of your study, after getting a nice job, you can find out someone whom you can happily married and compromise your love life. An understanding hubby, a lovely child, your life is complete, as you may say now. But believe me, you are missing something which is very very beautiful than your now so called complete life.

If you have someone whom you love but not yet express your feeling, please don't delay anymore, go and express your feeling right now. Your proposal won't go waste, but make sure that you have the right choice...believe me someone somewhere is made for you. Grave the opportunity to be always with your right love.

Love has no written rules

Being Casanova always pay a heavy prize in their later life. It may seems easy wooing someone with your look. But dear, it is very difficult to win someone's heart with your look. Love has no written formula or rules to follow. You may fall in love to anybody anytime, it doesn't matter how long you have been with him/her. It just need only ONE second to have eye to eye contact to fall in love. Earlier, letter has a great value, now a days mobile and sms has replaced it. Todays young cupid hardly spend one minute in expressing their love. Just type five-six lines and send it as sms. Many service providers are available, you can choose your choice which offers the cheapest call rate and use the mobile and express your feeling, simple!...this is the current funda of love. Do you believe that there is more value of love through letter than love in phone or to some extent love in sms?

Don't do different things to prove your love..but do things differently

Having someone other than your family to love and taken care of you is something which is very nice and precious. Not all are lucky when discussion is on "being in love." Remember that you have only one life. Get the best out of it. There is nothing as such of meeting your love in your next life...so and so... This time if you once miss your love, you will miss forever. It is true, and I agree completely with Harison Ford that "Big changes in our lives are more or less a second chance". Every relationship has a good beginning, I must say. But all are not guaranteed that they will end as well that of beginning. I have seen many break up due to misunderstanding. But I have seen less, people getting back to their ex. Before axing, think twice, or analyze, if he or she is your Right!!! It is very difficult to find true love, if you get and able to realize, don't let him/her go. Its now your turn to make big changes in yourself. No need to climb Himalaya or as such to declare your true love. Love is something which can only be feel through caring, accepting and fulfilling petty petty demands, making changes in yourself, giving surprises with gifts, and most important to be always around. Make only those promises which are possible for you to keep, and if once promise, keep it. Don't praise which don't really meant, but praise which really meant, and make it a point to praise at the beginning of your meeting for the day. It will make a great difference.

Its the LOVE that is most IMPORTANT...

For the last three four months, most of my friends are talking about fidelity and infidelity in a relationship. Many relationships are broken only because of infidelity. When judging of fidelity or infidelity comes, men seem to be better, as women's inferences are not all correct. When I broke up my ten years old relationship last year, I know how heartache it is. It was a very painful moment in my life that I never ever tried to bring back her in my life, fearing another break up. Life must go on, and I make myself believe in this principle. But when it comes about patching up of a broken relationship, I wont go against them....even though getting back your old flame is not that much easy.....if you feel and think about her always, and really mean some love left still, it is not bad in making another effort!!!
How many times, did you try and were not successful in bringing your ex love? Or still keep on thinking that your love will come back to your life with the course of life? NO! it wont happen like that if you don't give your sincere effort. If you really wanna bring your ex-lover back to your life, you need to give some extra effort. Try to analyze deeply, recollect the incidents, and find the reason behind your break up. Analyze the mistake(s).
Be sure, you are ready to forgive your ex or your ex does forgive you by letting past is past. Otherwise there is no point in going back. Both of you must learn from your mistakes. Remember, its the love that is most most important...be ready from now and make up your mind, there is no use of wasting your time if you really think you can bring you ex back in your life. Because everybody want to go back to those happy times in their life. If you are happy with your ex, go ahead!!!
A whole life of smooth sailing is not possible at all in a relationship. So dont feel confused for taking such a difficult challenges. Do all the possible things with action to prove that you are really changed and past mistakes wont repeat again...It is very important to remember those things which both of you enjoyed doing together. Do those things again in the presence of your ex, and let her feel what are missing out on by not being with you. You wont believe, these things will remain him/her how good when both of you used to be in your past relationship. The emotional intimacy during these times can strengthen your restrained relationship and be sure some surprising moments will emerge from such emotional bonding.
If the mistakes are from the man's side, they need to do a lot of petty things. A man can be taught to reach out and be sensitive to his lover's need, as most of the women had a preoccupied belief that their lovability is measured by the affection they used to receive from their boyfriend. Coming together with many difficulties can enable them in developing a strong bonding and will help them in becoming a relationship of depth and substance. You must develop such a strong sense of responsibility while trying to bring her back in your life that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming "I can do it for you".
Love is love, there is no boundary at all, but the most difficult stage is when the sweetest love turns out to be the bittiest love. These days when a woman feels dissatisfied in her relationship, she doesn't just suck it up and complain to her friends while shedding copious tears, like we used to find in cinema. The style is outdated now. Todays woman has changed with the times, and so has her definition of a successful relationship. If you don't act today tomorrow will be too late.